Folks, what I offer to you today is a little lesson in somatic sexology, classical conditioning and curating your space for pleasure. One little blog post, so many lessons. But I assure you, if you stick with me, you're gonna learn a lil something that involves all of these things and results in a room you simply want to fuck in.

I want to talk to you about designing your bedroom to aid your sexual ventures. I don't mean swings or crosses. I mean everyday items that can help you drop into a more sexual and receptive state. Something you can do to help leave the day's stressors at the door and signal to your body that you're about to get that pussy popped and, boy, are you ready for it.

Here's where we talk about somatic sexology. Basically, it's a lot easier to feel desire when you're not, say, stressed about work or your unpaid fines. Now, I can't make those go away (you have to. Please pay them before a warrant gets put out for your arrest... for real), but I can make some suggestions to help you ease that transition from “I'm fucked” to “I'm fucking.”

This is where classical conditioning comes in. If you haven't heard of Pavlov's Dog, that one's on you - I'm not about to explain it. But if you want to know how to use environmental cues in your bedroom to signal to your body that it's safe, sexy and time to switch gears, that I can tell you. And hopefully, before long when you step into your room, your mouth won't be the only thing watering.

So without further ado.. let there be

Light! 
- But not too much! Death to the big light! No one looks sexy under it & its bad for the soul. You can try candles for warm, flickering light.  Pretend you’re a victorian couple who has lusted to touch each other for years, and you have finally given in to the sins of the flesh. Or salt lamps, sunset lamps or anything with warm, calm light that reveals just enough to excite the eye. 

 Scent
 - Those who know me, know I love a good smell. Why? Because it just makes me feel good, who doesn't want to be encompassed in their favourite scent? From a perfumed room that hits you as soon as you step inside, to nuzzling into your lovers skin. Take a big whiff of a vanilla or sandalwood candle, something earthy and warm, and let it work it's magic on you. Or maybe light some incense to set a heavy, thick, intoxicating haze in the air. Gasp for air as you gasp for more. 

Sound 
- Music to your ears baby, drown out the outside world. Music with a steady, slow tempo can be soothing or sultry for some, while others might like something a little sexier, edgier, joyful or chaotic. Whatever it is that gets you out of your head and into your body. Then make yourself a sexy lil playlist or reach out to me and I'll give you mine to start. 
- You can also use soundscapes here. There are plenty of ambient soundscapes on YouTube and Spotify that recreate juicy environments. Maybe by the fireplace, or the jungle, or the sound of rain. Think 'if I was horny - where would I be?' and then find a soundscape for that environment. Wullah!

Decor
- God I love a velvety soft bed sheet, but hey, some prefer leather! Different strokes for different folks! Think about textures that feel good on your skin and colours that soothe your soul. For me, I'm a fan of muted deep and earthy tones, my room is riddled in sculptures and artworks of naked bodies. Plants everywhere for that jungle feel. Strong solid or classic furniture. 
- My suggestion for this is just to find things that help you feel at home, at ease, and create a space that feels pleasant for you. Think about how inviting it is, and also about how you treat your space. You're probably less likely to want to throw your lover down on your bed if it's covered in old tissues and your dirty washing. 

Doing these things might not magically make you horny, but you can make your bedroom somewhere that feels good to be. And feeling good is good for pleasure.

And maybe, just maybe.. if you time your pleasure practices, with the lighting of a candle or a certain song, your body might learn over time to respond to that scent or song as if you're already doing your practice.

At its worst, you've just created a nice room that your dates will be impressed by. But if it goes well... well, congratulations bitch. You just Pavlov's-dogged yourself into being a little more horny. You is a scientist.

Mack Out

xx